i take great pleasure in that... not so much the fact that i made them angry, but the fact that they think it's important that they're being honest with me, even if they're angry with me... get what i mean?
because some people just think that they would just be mad at them in silent, maybe sulk (merajuk?) a little bit, and after a cooling down period, pretend like nothing had happened. and they just pretend, and all the while, they keep it to themselves, whatever negative feelings there are: hatred, revenge... entah. and they will keep on doing that, keeping the anger just to themselves without letting it out, until one day...
... it explodes. and everything will be too late.
basically what i just said is of my own experience, my own feeling on this. all these years, i've learned that it's useless to be mad at your friends, unless you at least tell them about it. and i really did: when i have issues with the people closest to me, i'll let them know about my dissatisfaction. and it's not because i'm selfish i just want others to treat me well.
but because i love them, i don't want to hate them again if they are doing something that might make me feel angry.
it's normal to have some frictions in any relationship, but the best relationships are not the ones that end them after having one issue; that's a stupid relationship. nor they the ones that don't have any issues at all; that's probably pretentious. but the best ones are the ones that know how to deal with issues in them, find solutions, and later get on with it.
if all these are too complicated for you to fathom and digest, here's a more simple solution: forget and forgive.
love. friends.
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